Nicky G asked:
We have been together 7 years. He started becoming abusive 4 years into our relationship, after his parents split. I have no history of abuse in my family. He has years of it. I used to cower away when it first started, never defending myself and always afraid to upset him. Now, I find that I am quick as ever to insult and even quicker to throw a punch– he doesn’t even have to start getting physical.. negativity on his part sparks something inside of me that puts my guard up. I know we need professional help. I can’t bring myself to pick up the phone and ask for it though… Also, I have heard that talking about abuse will get you in trouble with the law if they feel like someone is in danger. In truth, it is mutual. We are both in danger of each other.
We have been together 7 years. He started becoming abusive 4 years into our relationship, after his parents split. I have no history of abuse in my family. He has years of it. I used to cower away when it first started, never defending myself and always afraid to upset him. Now, I find that I am quick as ever to insult and even quicker to throw a punch– he doesn’t even have to start getting physical.. negativity on his part sparks something inside of me that puts my guard up. I know we need professional help. I can’t bring myself to pick up the phone and ask for it though… Also, I have heard that talking about abuse will get you in trouble with the law if they feel like someone is in danger. In truth, it is mutual. We are both in danger of each other.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks!
